How To Become More Aware Of Your Emotions
If you’re like most people, there are probably several emotions that you go through on a regular basis. Feeling happy, angry, or frustrated are all normal emotions to experience as part of your day-to-day life. However, if you feel like some of these emotions tend to get the best of you or that they make it hard to accomplish tasks and achieve your goals, it might be time to consider learning more about what you’re feeling and how to manage those feelings in the future.
Steps To Becoming More Aware Of Your Emotions.
How you feel affects everything you do, and how you feel largely depends on how aware you are of your emotions. Emotional awareness means knowing when you’re feeling an emotion, what caused it, and what effect it’s having on your body and mind. You can increase your emotional awareness by paying attention to the subtle cues that feelings give off, taking time to reflect on them, and communicating with others about them so they don’t get bottled up inside of you.
The following steps will help you to become more aware of your emotions.
Listen to your feelings
Events and situations trigger feelings and are brought on by things that you experienced earlier in life. For example, if you were criticized as a child, criticism may emit feelings of anger or frustration. Similarly, if you had your heart broken in a past love affair, it may cause you to feel hurt or sadness, or fear and may cause you to avoid allowing yourself to be vulnerable to that situation again. The importance of identifying these emotions and their origins is paramount to sustaining emotional and physical health (they are, after all, entirely one). Furthermore, putting names to your feelings and taking time to think about what they mean will enable you to make better decisions in your life.
Denying or suppressing feelings leads to confusion, resentment, and physical stress. Even intense and uncomfortable feelings such as anger, fear, and frustration are softened when they are acknowledged without criticism or blaming and move us to change the things in our lives that need to be altered. Allow yourself to experience, support, and channel uncomfortable emotions as productively as possible. It will enable you to feel more freedom, joy, and peace.
Identify the Feeling and its intensity.
If you find it difficult to notice or name what you are feeling, it may require that you pay attention to your body. Most feelings are experienced in the body. For example, fear may show up as a knot in your stomach or a tightness in your throat. Our bodies are all different, so you will have to pay attention to your body and not just rely on others’ experiences. You may find it helpful to make a list of various feelings (e.g., delight, sadness, fear, insecurity, fury, shame, etc.) and spend some time reading over the list to see if you are aware of having experienced some of these.
Feelings have levels of intensity so rate them on a scale from 1 to 10. It is important to remember that each person’s emotional responses are unique. Therefore it is necessary to accept strong emotions in other people, even when you may not agree. Low intensity or moderate emotion may not call for any action. It may be enough to just be aware of the emotion and the circumstances in which it occurred. Label it for yourself and even try tuning in to a positive emotion early on to prevent escalation of feelings and concerns. If the same emotion recurs ever more strongly in the same situation, it is a message that something needs your attention.
Gain Some Control before Acting
- Count to ten
- Relax your body
- Remove yourself from the situation
- Talk to a friend
- Write an unsent letter
- Find something humorous to focus on
- Take a deep breath
- Go for a walk
- Introspection — Think about your day. Reflect — if you were controlled or uncontrolled. Try to improve each day.
- Keep silent — This is probably hard for some, but try to fix a time of day for quiet reflection.
- Don’t accept negative situations. Ignore them. Remember if you don’t accept another person’s negativity, it still belongs to them.
- Have some EMPATHY — try to understand others’ perspectives and situations.
Interpret the Feeling
Often your feelings are related to your interpretations of events more than to the events themselves. While it is natural to think that you are responding only to the events of your life, in fact, you make interpretations or judgments of these events, and these interpretations play a key role in your emotional responses. When you stop to think about it, each event could yield a variety of emotional responses.
Remember that your interpretations can be made so rapidly and so automatically that you may not realize they are happening. In effect, your emotions can be a valuable signal to you that you may need to re-examine your interpretation.
Express the Emotion
There are two ways of expressing your feelings: Passively and Assertively
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