How To Overcome Social Anxiety and Shyness

moments of positivity How To Overcome Social Anxiety and Shyness

Blushing In Front of Everyone

Blushing is a common symptom of social anxiety. Whenever you’re singled out or made the center of attention, you probably find that you are blushing, and you know just how awkward this can be. While you may never completely stop blushing, there is something that might help. Try monitoring your thoughts about the situation. Say things to yourself like, “People are probably not noticing as much as I think they are.”

Panicking if Asked To Meet New People

Meeting new people can be much worse when you have social anxiety. You panic just thinking about it! A first meeting takes the stress of talking to someone, to know someone. It’s a good kind of stress, though, at least if your meeting goes well. If you suffer from social anxiety, it’s best to choose an activity that either gives you something to talk about or doesn’t require you to talk the whole time. Also, try not to sweat it, even if things get uncomfortable. We’ve all recovered from embarrassing meeting mistakes.

Standing Alone at a Party

Most likely, you don’t even want to go to the party, but your friend forces you to go. Once you get there, your friend goes off chatting with people, and you find yourself alone. You need to do something, and at this point, small talk will be the key. Making small talk is usually easier if you plan what to say in advance. If you don’t know someone, try topics like weather, news, sports, or you can mention something about the party. But try to keep it positive. If you know the person well, you can mention something that connects the two of you, be it from the past or present. But again, try to keep it somewhat positive. In any case, if you find yourself alone at a party or gathering, look for someone who also seems to be a lacking company. Offer an opener such as “Quite the weather we’re having, don’t you think?” Now, this doesn’t sound too original or exciting, but it will be enough to start a conversation.

Talking About Taboo Subjects

People get uncomfortable talking to each other about all sorts of things — money, religion, politics, and so on. Even more so if you have social anxiety. However, there’s a lot we can learn from other perspectives on all topics. The key is to stick to the facts and try to find common ground when discussing controversial subjects.

Not Knowing Any of Your Neighbors

Are you afraid to talk to your neighbors? Perhaps you worry that they have negative thoughts about you. But unless you gave them a reason to, this is probably not the case. They don’t even know you! Simply offer a smile or say hello. You can also offer to help. For example, offer to help with groceries or hold the door for them. It’s really that easy.

Being Taken Advantage of

People with social anxiety often lack assertiveness. They’re afraid of upsetting others or being judged negatively. However, being more assertive can help a lot. It’s a skill that can improve relationships. It lets others know what you need and what you expect. Practice being assertive by stating your needs in a calm way and listening to others’ needs as well. This way, you can reach a compromise.

Giving Up on Things Because of Your Social Anxiety

You might be excited about starting a new venture, but, your social anxiety keeps getting in the way. You give up before you even try! Don’t give up on your goals because of social anxiety. It’s still possible to achieve what you want in life. Set goals for yourself and work towards them-either by using self-help books or with the help of someone you trust — like a friend, a relative or a professional.

Spending Holidays Alone

Many people with social anxiety feel alone on special days of the year, such as Valentine’s Day, office holidays, festivals, New Year’s, and even on their own birthdays. Try making those days feel like any other day of the year. Or, plan something special to do for yourself.

When You Feel Misunderstood

People with social anxiety are often misunderstood by others. You may be asked why you’re so “quiet” or why you don’t speak up more. It’s best to think in advance about how you will respond to this situation the next time it happens. This way you won’t be caught off guard and have nothing to say in reply. You can respond with something like:”I get that a lot. Actually, once you get to know me I can be quite talkative.”




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